Save the U.S.P.S from DeJoy’s DeStruction!!

Today is the day!  A national action to send a message that we will all stand as Americans and demand that our elected officials SAVE THE USPS.

Trump-Appointee  Postmaster General Louis DeJoy has been in the job a few months and has already caused irreparable harm to federal property, slowed service, and sewn distrust in whether our mail-in ballots will be safe.

But the USPS postal workers are here for us!  They will–as they always have–get our votes counted.  Mail in your ballot TWO WEEKS before the election day of November 3 to ensure that even with delays your vote will be in before the polls close.

Go here to learn more about the national day of action:

Call your Congressional Representatives and Senators at the Washington switchboard (just ask for your Senator or Rep or say your state if you don’t know the names!). Demand they do everything in their power to save the U.S.P.S.





Mother’s Day in the time of COVID-19

Hi all.  It’s been a while.  I’ve been writing letters, but leaving my last job and starting a new business (see has kept me busy!

I’m still writing letters and sending mail art and trying to save the United States Postal Service during a time when there are forces actively trying to dismantle it at the federal level.

And I’m still staying at home to avoid catching or spreading COVID-19.  Times are strange and hard and yet filled with more opportunities to garden, connect with neighbors, lend a helping hand and write letters. Wishing for everyone to be safe, healthy and connected to loved ones in these times.

Mother’s Day is arriving on Sunday and it is a hard day for someone like me who lost her mom two years ago.  But these funny quarantine-themed cards helped bring a smile to my face anyway.  I’m sharing them in case they help you, too!


Here is one you can get on Etsy from Eridanus MD:

Shine Your Light

Earlier this week, I wrote the text below to a friend who has been experiencing some scary situations with male clients she works with as an addiction counselor.  She felt scared and alone. After the mail bombs, the grocery-store shootings of two black people by a white supremacist, and the synagogue massacre–all this week–I felt I should share it here, slightly modified.


The order that has been in charge for millennia, and perhaps most especially in North America for the last 400 years as a settler-colonialist, white, male, Christian, heterosexual, capitalist-extractive, “productive” force,  is recognizing that their rule is being questioned and challenged now more than ever. Though in the past there have been movements and efforts to expand rights and seek equality, they have generally only “allowed” marginalized groups to mold themselves into the desired image of the system.

But now many are choosing to live and express themselves as they are—and rejecting the prescriptive “norms” that have been provided. We want to be women as we value womanhood, femininity and the divine inside us. We want to be sexual beings as we are and express our gender in ways that help us feel fully seen. We want to explore spirituality, connection, religion, enlightenment, and wisdom from our ancestors and to learn from others across the world and to delve within our souls rather than passively receiving any traditions that denigrate us. We give ourselves permission rather than seeking it from others. We are learning to speak unashamedly in our languages, accents and dialects that share with others who we are and where our people come from. We pare down consumption in favor of creation and connection. We protect the water and the earth in the face of threats. We flee violence and persecution even when it means where we arrive may not welcome us, to protect our children and our futures. We declare ownership of our physical selves and demand accountability for those who have trespassed. We seek to know ourselves and be seen and valued by others for all that we are, truly.

None of this happens easily in a world that still does not fully value each of us as beautiful, sacred and unique beings. And many of us are squashed back “into place” at times for our efforts. But these violent outbursts and threats are coming from those who fear they are going to “lose” in the new world order. They recognize—though sometimes not even consciously—that they have benefitted unfairly from the old system and that things are changing. Or they are invested in the current system—despite the fact that it obliterates their own lights—because they think they’ve learned how to play the game and “win.”

And as the old way dies a bit more with each person who stands in their truth, it is experienced by some as a threat. And they respond with fear, numbing, and sometimes rage and threats and outbursts and violence.

Those who carry the light so clearly and fully–as my friend does–are targeted by the fearful. The fearful see that those who are tending their light have something that their soul deeply needs and they are angry about their perceived lack. They don’t yet know that they carry a light, too, and that it takes seeking and tending to bring forth. But not knowing their own light, in their ignorance they seek to extinguish others so we are all in the dark together.

So they threaten and violate and rage and destroy.

These behaviors are all symptoms of the larger structures in which live being on shaky ground. It’s a death rattle of the old world order and the birthing cries of the new world to come. We have to be strong for ourselves and for one another. And perhaps you may choose to take your light to a place where it can shine brightly in safety for a long while or just a bit and that is absolutely a valid choice. But I hope it helps to see yourself as not alone in this, but rather as part of a beautiful transformation that we are making—and that we must make—to move TOWARD a future that reflects our full potential to live in love and light and connection as a species of animals among all the other beings seen and unseen. Being you–your full self–in a world that seeks to diminish and destroy you IS AN ACT OF RESISTANCE.

I’m here to  witness and validate your struggles and your efforts to keep yourself safe but hope you are able to do so in ways that help you continue to evolve and expand and grow and shape yourself, the people around you and the world toward love.


Sending love to all of you in this time of darkness.  Shine your light.

Not Everything is Terrible

Print by kwohtations

I met a woman once, named Janine, and she worked at a “real job” and seemed like the other professionals I met on a daily basis.  And then I learned that she made incredible, inspiring, funny, absurd and sweet letter press and hand-printed cards on the side.  I learned because I received a card from the team she was on, and the card celebrated my legal wedding to my wife.  It had two gals on the front and said “Yay, You’re Married!” I flipped the card over and realized I knew the artist!

I immediately dug into her website and found she had cards for all sorts of important life events that are not covered at Hallmark.  Like begining your gender transition journey, coming out, and even apologizing for getting drunk. And she managed to provide cards that represented our multi-ethnic, multi-shaded society.  She has expanded into fun new territory, such as a card for recognizing that often we’re just trying to pretend we are more than we are until we can be that more. I’m enjoying following her journey and inspired by how she uses the material of real, sometimes terrible, life to make and share art.

Janine has long inspired me and made me think it might be possible for me to one day do something similar with my own creative process.  That day has not yet come, but she still makes me think big things.

I just returned to her website, read her blog, toured her Insta and perused her Etsy shop after a while away and I made a big purchase and stocked up on cards.  Some of them say things I didn’t even know I needed to say, so I’m grateful for her help!

I also snagged a bandana of the print above–to wear around and remind me that the world is not entirely garbage (which I needed a reminder of today).  I especially liked that “getting real mail” got a plug as one of the things that makes the world a not entirely terrible place!

Check out her site, she’s amazing at helping you say what needs to be said. You won’t regret it.


P.S. After a few very difficult years for me and my family, I find her cards for grieving-and the messy, confusing, weird, misunderstood process it is-are so on point and worthy of sharing. The grief flow-chart is sheer perfection:

by kwohtations

P.P.S.  The card above seems to be out of stock at the moment (I think I bought the last one!).  So hopefully it will be back up soon!

A Legacy of Letters

My mother passed away on April 4th.   It was a sacred honor to share her last moments with her.

I had no way of knowing that when I wrote the post a month ago about sending condolence cards that I would be on the receiving end again so soon. Yet there they are, coming in many ways in recent days–on my desk when I returned to work, in the mail, and hand delivered with food or flowers.  And each message has been a sweet gift of memory, comfort or support.

This weekend, as we went through my mother’s belongings, we found anniversary cards from my father, birthday wishes from my grandmother, and encouraging notes from her best friend.  A life’s big and small moments recounted in these cards, leaving sweet traces of the loving circle of family and friends with whom she shared her life.  I enjoyed finding the many cards and notes I sent her, kept with the rest.

And I found cards that she had filled out and not yet sent.  So I forwarded those on to their intended recipients, hoping to close the circle and bring a smile to their faces, knowing that she thought of them fondly, too.

a tree I drew in my work journal

A family’s legacy

In the mix, I found a journal I gave my mother twenty years ago.  I had encouraged her to write down her thoughts, stories and family lore.  This one, like others I had given her, was largely blank save the first four pages.  But those pages are more precious to us than gold.  In them, she shared loving thoughts of her daughters, a memory of her father, a quote from my father, and the story–that none of us knew–of how she got her nickname,  Teenie.

These pages served as a reminder that when people die, they often take their stories with them.  And when our parents pass, they take many of our own stories with them, too.  I would hear my parents’ stories so often, it seemed I could never forget them.  Panic set in once mom was gone, because the stories seemed to evaporate, too.  I seem only to have wispy fragments. I wish I had more of them written in her hand.

But these few must somehow be enough.

This weekend’s explorations of my mother’s legacy–and the letters and cards she received and the notes she left–reaffirmed for me the power and purpose of connecting through the written word.  Go write down your stories in your hand.  Send a letter.  Share your love and thoughts and encouragement with others.  These become part of your legacy and theirs.

Do it now. There is no time to waste.




Lunar Letter Love

It’s a new moon today.  So she is dark tonight, hiding behind the earth, taking a bit of a rest from reflecting the light of the sun! Everyone deserves a night off once in a while.

I am a bit obsessed with the moon. Her mystery and beauty and changing faces throughout the month are a pleasure to view and enjoy.

So when I saw these flat cards by Midnight Stationery, I knew I needed to have them.

Aren’t they lovely?

They are flat cards, so they are perfect for a quick note on the back…perhaps one bemoaning that it’s been many moons since you’ve seen a friend.

There are three colors to the pack (navy, kraft and black). I plan on using a white or metallic ink on the black and blue cards, and a dark ink (or maybe red) on the kraft color card. I like the different effects the different inks have.

And to complete the theme, I’ll mail these using the 2018 Total Eclipse stamps which reveals a moon when you warm the stamp.

And for my international friends I will send ones that feature this beauty!

Happy New Moon to you! What intentions can you set now that will grow as the moon grows over the next two weeks?  I’m setting the intention of finding more time for creative, artistic fun in the coming month.  Woo hoo!

Sending Sympathy

No matter how our letter writing habits have changed in recent years, it still seems common practice–even among those who are not snail mail enthusiasts–to send a sympathy card when someone you care about has lost a loved one.

Perhaps as a function of my increasing age and my wonderfully large social group, I have had more opportunities than I would like to send these sorts of cards lately.  As I pondered what to write in the most recent card, I thought it was worth sharing my process here.

When I first hear of someone passing away, I consider who might need or appreciate an expression of sympathy and support.  When a man dies, we might think of his wife, but not send notes to his adult children who live far away or his best friend.  If I know those people as well, I’ll reach out with a card.

Second, I find a card that aligns most closely to capturing the person, if I know the deceased personally.  A natural theme for an outdoorsman, a classic theme for a classy lady, that sort of thing.  This alignment helps strike a sweet resonance for the recipient that the deceased was known and seen in this way.

For those who have lost a parent or spouse, I think it is important to send a card that notes that particular loss rather than a more generic expression of sympathy.  Those relationships are so special for us that having the unique nature of this loss recognized feels important.  I know that when my father died suddenly, receiving cards that recognized what the loss of a father stood out as most special.

Of course, please remember that if the relationship is complicated or you are unfamiliar with the quality of the relationship, a more generic response may be appropriate.

Once I’ve chosen my cards and it’s time to sign them, I read the card again and think what personal touch I can add.  If I knew the deceased, I briefly share a cherished memory of the person or an example of a lasting impression they made on me.  If I only know the person to whom I’m sending the card, I share memories or impressions I have of the relationship they had with the deceased, such as: “I know from how you spoke of your mother, that you two were friends, too.”  Those stories and impressions can be precious gifts to the bereaved, showing the lasting legacy of the one who is gone.

After writing, I usually finish the envelope with a nice seal and a pretty and understated stamp.  Of course, another stamp could capture the person’s memory better.  When the man who was like my second dad growing up passed away last year, I used Star Trek stamps for cards to his wife and children.  He was a big fan!

In short, do send a card, use the opportunity to share a sweet memory, and offer your support.  Having been on the receiving end of sympathy cards, I can say that knowing people cared and sent their love meant so much during a time when I was feeling overwhelmed and unmoored. It matters.

In case you need some more guidance or would like some specific words to use, here are some Do’s and Don’ts from Hallmark and Shutterfly.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

The day of love is almost here.  If you hurry, you can still mail a love letter and have it arrive in time for Valentine’s Day! Making valentines is one of my favorite craft projects.  And I don’t reserve them for just my spouse–I enjoy sending love to family, friends, and pen pals.

And the stamp you put on the envelope is one more opportunity to spread the love.  One of my favorite enduring practices of the United States Postal Service is their near-annual issuing of Love stamps since the early 1980s.    Check out this list featuring all of the designs since 1974!

In time for Valentine’s Day, the USPS has just released their 2018 Love stamp design.  I have already ordered two sheets  (and you can, too!).

I like the handwritten and vintage feel of it.  It shares an aesthetic to one of my favorite stationery designers: Rifle Paper Co.

However you do it, and on whatever day you choose, I hope you find ways to write down your loving thoughts and share them with people who are important to you.  In this world of instant communication, handwritten letters and homemade cards become cherished keepsakes.

So, go. Find some glitter, heart stickers, and markers and create your heart out.  Do it now. Enjoy the process. And then spread the love!




Weekends are for Letter Writing

I had a great weekend of letter writing!

InCoWriMo is going along swimmingly.  Five days in and I have sent 15 cards and letters! The goal of writing and sending at least one letter a day has me actively seeking inspiration for who to reach out to next.  I’m uncovering birthdays and other reasons to celebrate, being more mindful of things I can express gratitude for, and developing some mail art ideas to create and launch into the world.

How are you spending InCoWriMo?  What inspires you to write?



Well, this post is a day late (and a dollar short, as my Dad used to say), but February is International Correspondence Writing Month!  Affectionately known as InCoWriMo, the goal is to write and send a letter, note, postcard–something!–every day of February.

I think we can catch up!

I had set a goal that I would send 365 letters this year and have already sent 36, so I’m doing OK.  But it’s already Groundhog Day and I haven’t sent one yet in February, so I have to get crackin’.

Fortunately, I have a late January birthday, so I can begin with some thank you notes for the gifts and kindnesses I received.  And as the winter chill keeps us indoors and some days are dark and gray, a bright note in a mailbox will be good to send some cheer to friends, pen pals and loved ones as we await spring.

And if being part of a larger movement is your thing, you can sign up as a participant here and join the party.

Happy writing!